Some of us may be resistant to the idea of having to heal childhood wounds. That is because we don’t like having to revisit the past in our memory. We fear that we would relive the pain and that we would traumatise ourselves all over again.
Even more so, we wish that the past did not happen. For sure, if not for the past, we would have suffered less all these years and we wouldn’t have felt so lost, alone and confused. More importantly, we wouldn’t be unconsciously having an inner child that is bent on sabotaging our present.
Perhaps, just like how movies portray, we dearly wish that there can be a time machine that can take us back. We would like to have the power to change things right from the start, instead of having to do repair or healing work. If we can change history, a time machine would certainly help.
Well, as you probably know by now, no amount of wishing is going to enable you to turn back the clock.
The past took place the way it did.
And it has influenced the course of your life.
But instead of feeling helpless, it’s important to realise this: we can take back our power. And doing this helps us to heal our childhood wounds.
How We Can Reclaim Our Power in the Present
I’d like to share a quote from my book, Self-Love Practice (available on Amazon)…
“You certainly can’t turn back the clock or time travel to change what took place in the place. Fortunately, while you may not be able to change your childhood, you can certainly rewrite the stories about the past; with a reframe in perspective, emotional release and an energetic reintegration. Healing happens in the present moment, that’s where the power is. The reparenting work involves reclaiming and loving your inner child, creates a shift into wholeness?—?here and now.”
The 3 ingredients to healing and reparenting your inner child are in reframing, releasing and reintegration and they are as follows…
- Reframing Your Story
Reparent your inner child from your wise adult self is part of the healing process where you offer guidance on how to look at things from a more positive, compassed and empowered lens. For example, let your inner child know that it’s not that they are unlovable but that their parents were too preoccupied with their own busy lives to be attentive.
2. Releasing Negative Emotions
Let go of shame and stop blaming yourself for what took place in the past. If you’ve not had the chance to release all the bottled-up negative feelings, emotional healing can certainly help. Fortunately, it is possible to approach healing in a way that is safe, gentle and compassionate. And you can do it with using EFT tapping too. Using EFT tapping is a great way to heal your inner child.
3. Reintegration Into Wholeness
Your inner child is that part of your psyche holding on to rejection, abandonment or neglect. You could be having more than one wounded inner child at various junctures too. Through the years, you had unknowingly left them all behind.
It’s not your fault as you needed to function and adapt to the world. Yet, you recognise that your well-being is being affected in the present if you don’t work on healing. Claiming all these parts of you in the now leads you to healing your childhood wounds and reintegrating into wholeness.
Transformation in the Now
Yes, healing happens in the now?—?and that’s where the power is!
Indeed, the past is long gone. However, you don’t have to allow a bad past to dictate the present or the future. Learn to take charge on healing your childhood wounds, rewrite your story and set yourself free!
Need help to heal childhood wounds? Contact me to find out more about working together.
Love and Abundance Always,
Evelyn Lim
Transformation Life Coach
Accredited Advanced EFT Practitioner
